What If My Child Is Homesick?
by Stacie Hoppman on April 29,2016 in
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It’s a big concern for parents. Often, summer camp might be one of the first times a child is away from home, and you want to make sure that their stay at camp is successful, enjoyable, and healthy. So what do you do about homesickness?
- Don’t make a big deal about it. If your child knows that you are worried, they will worry. Talk to them before they come to camp. Talk about the activities that they will be able to do. Tell them how excited you are for them to go. Ask them questions. “What do you think will be your favorite thing?” “What kind of food do you hope they have?” Get on the Camp Wyoming website with your child and do some exploring together. Look at pictures on our Facebook page. Read the bios about the summer staff members. Look at the Typical Day schedule and the Typical Menu. Focus on all the positive parts of camp. That way, your child will focus on these things, too. It’s totally normal to experience homesickness at camp, and our staff are well-trained in how to deal with it. However, preparing for it starts at home when you encourage and uplift your camper.
- Practice being away from home with short stays before they come to camp. Have your child stay overnight at their grandparent’s or a friend’s house. These short getaways will teach them that they can be independent and survive without the comforts of home, and also that you will return to get them when the night is over. Make it a little more “camp-like” by letting them pitch a tent in the backyard or in the living room.
- Don’t promise things that can’t actually happen. Don’t tell them that they can call home or that you’ll come and pick them up if they don’t like it. Promises like this actually make it harder for your child to adjust at camp (because all they will focus on is the “out” that you have provided) and go against the general practices of the camp. Trust the staff. We are all well-trained and have a lot of experience in dealing with homesickness.
- Make sure your child is informed and prepared. Most often, homesickness arises because of a different need. If your child is afraid of the dark and can’t find their flashlight, they may become homesick and want to go home, not because they aren’t enjoying camp, but because they are missing that one item that will help them feel more comfortable. For this reason, we encourage parents to have their camper help pack their own bag. Make sure they know where to find their flashlight and extra batteries. Show them the pocket where you put their special stuffed animal or favorite sunglasses. Let them bring things from home that will help make their stay at camp more comfortable (but please don’t pack candy or food). Tell them to ask their counselor for anything that they forgot. More often than not, camp can help provide whatever item your child needs.
- Pack already addressed envelopes and stationary or post cards. Encourage your child to write lots of letters and tell you everything they are doing at camp. This way, your child will still feel connected to you throughout the week. Of course, you should also write letters to your child. If you are worried about how slow mail can be, leave a few letters with the counselor when you drop your child off that they can hand out for the first few days until your letters from home arrive. Be encouraging, positive, and supportive. Don’t ask in the letters if they miss home or if they are sad. You don’t want to remind them to be homesick.
- If you are really worried, have your child choose a friend to come with them. Many campers come to camp on their own and don’t know anyone. They meet new friends and counselors at camp and have wonderful experiences. However, if you think your child may struggle to come out of their shell when surrounded by new people, register them for camp with a friend so that they have someone familiar by their side to encourage them and make them feel more comfortable.
Sending your child to camp can often be more difficult on the parents than it is on the camper. You want them to have fun and be successful, to make lots of friends, try new things, and have the time of their life. We know that, and we want to do everything we can to make sure that happens. We have a few things in place as well to ease your own anxiety. You can like our Facebook page. We will post photos and updates throughout the week. Be sure to come back and visit this blog as well. During the summer, we post updates each day about what the kids are doing. Pray for your child while they are here, and trust us to take care of them and guide them through this wonderful, scary, totally awesome experience called summer camp!
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